Grief

To state upfront- There is no normal, regular, prescribed or right way to grieve. You may experience the loss of a person, pet, relationship, life phase or way of life. 
 
Your grief, your way.
 
To help make even some sense of grieving, you probably know the 5 Stages of Grief- Kubler-Ross 1969.  Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.  https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/
 
This is a good introductory model to understand grief however we all know that grief has many tentacles and a giant catch net.
 
More recently, I worked with Robin Shapiro, a trauma specialist from Seattle and I will often share this version.
 
Stages of Grief- Robin Shapiro 2021 www.emdrsolutions.com
(may occur in succession or over and over again)
1: Shock and disbelief
2: Anger and blaming
3: Sadness, depression, hopelessness and yearning
4: Integration alternating with all of the above
5: Over the acute grief and still missing your person
 
No matter who or what you are grieving, give yourself time, space and no expectations. Talk, don’t talk, cry, don’t cry, be angry, be quiet and know that reminders can catch you at the most unexpected times and even though you feel alone in your grief, you are not alone, the grief club has many members.
 
For further information, support and strategies

Websites
Australian Centre of Grief and Bereavement
https://www.grief.org.au   There is also a Grief App to provide support.
Beyond Blue
https://www.beyondblue.org.au/mental-health/grief-and-loss
 
Books
The Grief Handbook- Bridget McNulty
Welcome to The Grief Club- Janine Kwoh
 
Podcasts
There are a number of grief related podcasts so find the style that suits your personal situation.